The Newlywed Life: Tough Days

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My husband is a sensitive man, but out of the two of us let’s face it, I’m the emotional one 99.9% of the time. I cry at the end of movies, in the middle of a sweet song, when I’m overwhelmed with life and I have been known to cry “just because” from time to time. He knew what he signed up for when he married me and somehow he still followed through! With all that being said let’s be real, marriage is a full time gig. 24/7. 365. No weekends off. There are great days where you’re laughing while making a pizza in the kitchen and then there are tough days when your heart is breaking and it’s hard to make it off the couch.

Earlier this week we received news from one of my dearest friends in the world, news that I never dreamed I’d be hearing. Not from her. Not now. Suddenly I was having conversations with Chelsea about chemo and ports and scary things you never want to be talking about with your beautiful friend in her early thirties. It just doesn’t seem fair.

As expected, I’ve been a wreck all week. By yesterday morning, I had told my husband every detail as I knew it, questioned why this was happening and talked through a million ideas of how to help her through every step of the process. Taylor reminded me of so many, including my incredible cousin (!!!), who have beat cancer and encouraged me to breathe normally. There was nothing more to say that would help or change the way I was feeling or what was happening and he knew it, so he just held me and let me cry. We stood in the hallway for what felt like hours and he held me close while I cried and mumbled a prayer for healing for my beautiful friend. He didn’t say a word – he just held me while I let go. Sometimes marriage is simply about being present.

Last night I talked to Chelsea for hours, along with our other half, Ashley, who we conferenced in. We talked and talked about it all – the scary stuff and just life stuff. I’ve always known Chelsea was a tough cookie – we’ve been friends and lived together for the better part of my 20s – but she is approaching next level toughness these days. Her attitude is incredibly joyful and her courage is contagious and I know without a doubt God is going to carry her through this with grace. After we all said our goodbyes and I slipped into bed next to my sweet, half-asleep husband we prayed for complete healing for my beautiful friend, just as we had several times earlier that day and as we will continue to do. For the first time all day I felt at peace, and I knew everything would be alright.

Ladies, I hope you find a partner who will hold you and let you cry. Who will love you when you’re all dolled up and when your mascara is running down your face. Who will pray with you without ceasing, and who will love your best friends the way you love them. I am so incredibly thankful for a Godly husband who is my light and encouragement when I get so caught up in the whys and hows – the questions that don’t need to be answered because we’re not in control. I am eternally grateful for a husband that keeps reminding me God is faithful, my friend is a fighter, and we’re going to pray her through this. Together. xo

Six Things


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[ How fun is this dressing room? ]

The theme of this past week would be gratitude. With each passing day I became even more thankful for the wonderful people God has placed in my life: my husband, my family, my girlfriends (some of which now have little ones that I adore!), the smart women that I work with and of course, Buddy. In between work and traveling and caring for my husband with a sinus infection (that he soon passed on to me), there were sweet moments and real conversations with the people who I feel so blessed to call friends and family. Too mushy? Never! Tell the people you love that you love them and embrace the Hallmark card moments. Have a great week! xo

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[ Sometimes Buddy thinks he’s a guard dog ]

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[ There is nothing sweeter than when your best friends have babies ]

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[ Exploring downtown Paducah and dodging all the girls in outrageous prom dresses ]

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[ We introduced this pretty lady to all the local hot spots, including Patti’s and their legendary chocolate pie]

Links I’m Loving

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1. The right dose of exercise for a longer, healthier life finally revealed. (nytimes.com)

2. These gloriously geeky newborns are already winning at life. (buzzfeed.com)

3. Take notes: J.Crew’s head stylist reveals the secret to truly timeless style. (whowhatwear.com)

4. Let’s talk about wallpaper, shall we? (abeautifulmess.com)

5. Tech apps and services that are sure to make your personal and professional life a whole lot more organized. (cupcakesandcashmere.com)

6. Joanna Gaines for President, y’all. (thoughtfulwomen.org)

7. I need this classic white tee in my summer wardrobe. (vinnielouise.com)

Six Things

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[ Feeling fresh after his summer cut ]

Raise your hand if you’ve been loving all the warm weather we’ve been having? I’m raising both hands because I have loved the sunshine and upper 70 temps so much – partly because I can finally stand to go barelegged and put away the heavy coats. Buddy hasn’t been the only one wanting to spend every minute outside! This past weekend was FHU’s Makin’ Music which, if you’re not familiar with it, I won’t even attempt to explain what it is BUT it holds a very special place in my heart. Lots of nostalgia being back on campus and crazy that my “little” brother is graduating in May! Where did the time go? The rest of the weekend was spent exploring new places with my honey and seeing two of my best girlfriends. Everyone have a great week! xo

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[ I loved admiring this house on a long walk ]

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[ So proud of my brother and all of his Makin’ Music-ness ]

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[ Date night with plenty of sweet tea ]

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[ Two best friends and a baby ]

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The Newlywed Life: “I Love You More”

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I’m not sure if it’s the fact that I still trip over my new full name (Katie Powell Bell) or the permanent grin on my face, but everyone everywhere loves to point out that I’m a newlywed. This is usually followed by an occasional “Oh, you’re still in the sweet first few years where you still actually like each other” – OY – but mostly people get all smiley too, thinking about those first few years in their own marriage.

Sure, we have moments where we get annoyed with each other or have a small argument discussion due to a misunderstanding. The majority of the time, however, we’re the lovebirds who make the most of every moment together. Since we started dating, we’ve enjoyed a solid balance of fancy nights on the town and thrown together meals eaten around the coffee table. We like to celebrate each other every day, especially birthdays/anniversaries/holidays because well, we love making each other feel extra special. In just our four short months of wedded bliss we’ve started traditions and inside jokes that I know are sure to stick around for many years to come.

There are so many aspects of our young marriage that I adore and appreciate more each day, but there is one thing my husband does that sticks out. It’s very simple but I’ve come to expect it at least once a day. I say “I love you.” What does he say back? “I love you more.” It’s that addition of one simple word that makes my heart skip a beat, and while I always argue and say it isn’t possible, he somehow manages to win every time.

After we returned from our honeymoon I was busy unpacking all of our mugs in the kitchen, when I came across one that Taylor had painted for me one afternoon months ago when we went to paint pottery. I admired it for probably too long and then as I flipped it over to place it in the cabinet I saw it. He had written his name, the date, and then in teeny tiny letters “I love you more.” And just like that, my heart skipped a beat. xo

Links I’m Loving

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1. Song lyrics we’ve probably been singing wrong for years. Oops. (buzzfeed.com)

2. I am so looking forward to seeing this movie for two major reasons: Blake Lively and all the sure-to-be epic costumes from every era. (youtube.com)

3. Up your metabolism by eating these superstar foods. (self.com)

4. If you happen to be a Frank Lloyd Wright fan like me, you’ll love this listing (complete with plenty of retro photos) for one of his homes – that I used to walk past often when I lived in Oak Park. (countryliving.com)

5. I’ll definitely be making these apple hand pies soon to surprise my husband. (cupcakesandcashmere.com)

6. This really happened: a guy named Burger and a woman named King got married and Burger King paid for it all. (hellogiggles.com)

7. How to whip up your own Chipotle burrito bowl at home. (today.com)

Shameless Plug: Dove Dry Shampoo

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Every once in a while you come across a dream hair product – you know, the kind that works wonders, smells amazing and can be bought for a few dollars at the nearest Target. Dove Dry Shampoo has proven to be the dream product for me and my blonde locks, and with the easy price of $4 it’s safe to say I’m hooked.

My former roommate (and nanny extraordinaire) brought this gloriousness into my life, only after we had both tried various expensive dry shampoos and not seen great results. One day she brought home a couple of bottles of Dove dry shampoo and within the week we were loving the results – and the fact that we didn’t have to wash our hair daily to keep it looking top notch. Dove dry shampoo sprays on natural (no powdery residue here!), is weightless, and bulks up your hair to add a little bit of volume (who doesn’t love that?). Oh, and it also works wonders when you need a little more ump for a ponytail or top knot! As a girl with bangs, I swear by this stuff on those mornings I don’t have time to wash my hair or for nights when I need the bangs to pep it up.

Whether you’re already a loyal follower of dry shampoo or haven’t tried it yet, pick up a bottle of Dove dry shampoo the next time you’re out and give it a whirl. xo

Six Things (+ lots more)

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[ This is why I’m bad at unpacking ]

These past two weeks have been a little nuts, filled with lots of work, travel and plenty of fun time which included meeting my dear friend (and college roommate) Beth’s baby girl! This past weekend my parents came to visit and we had a great time showing them around and going to every antique store in a 20 mile radius for my mom. We decided to brave the crowds at Tator Day, a local festival here that is taken incredibly seriously by far too many people (there’s even a parade!), to get cotton candy and some awesome tie-dyed shirts that remind me of middle school.

This was our first Easter as a married couple so of course I tried to be wife of the year in the kitchen by making a big Easter lunch. I had never made a ham before and while thankfully it turned out pretty fantastic (Taylor had several helpings), it was too big to fit in one of our four crockpots so I had to get creative with the aluminum foil. Oops. My sweet husband then took charge of slicing the ham and I believe he had a little too much fun breaking in our carving knife. We had a good laugh while we ate lunch and then finagled Buddy into taking a family photo all before taking a nice, long nap.

I hope everyone had a wonderful Easter weekend and is ready to tackle this week! xo

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[ So proud of this gorgeous new mom ]

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[ Taylor loves Baby Kate snuggles, too ]

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[ Buddy’s first walk in a park was a great success ]

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[ Saturdays are for antiquing and finding a Les Paul ]

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[ They called it a “tator tot” tee ]

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[ Enjoyed a 3D movie with the parents ]

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[ My husband won major brownie points for taking on that ham ]

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[ My favorite outtake we fondly call “bribing buddy” ]

Links I’m Loving

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1. Craving fast food? Employees share 13 items you should never order. (minq.com)

2. Watch Mariah Carey sing to Mariah Carey with James Cordon…all while in the car. (buzzfeed.com)

3. How to craft a better (and more colorful!) bookshelf. (cupcakesandcashmere.com)

4. Ever wonder what 2,000 calories looks like? These pictures may shock you. (nytimes.com)

5. 19 Photos of women working, 100 years ago – so cool. (huffingtonpost.com)

6. Plenty of yummy Paleo chocolate chip cookie recipes – I may or may not have tried one of these last night and eaten two three. (paleogrubs.com)

7. This map highlighting the weirdest baby names in each state across the US of A will make you thankful for your normal name. (people.com)

Shameless Plug: Chocolate Soy Milk

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Okay, so I am a major fan of all things chocolate. Ask my husband and former roommates – chocolate is one of my main food groups. Naturally, I’ve always loved a cold glass of chocolate milk now and again but don’t always love the calorie count.

Well this week my husband and I decided to try our hand at going Paleo. Why? I have no idea, but something about being healthy and getting in great shape. But seriously, our Chick-fil-A visits and bi-weekly donut runs had gotten out of control. We headed to Kroger for all the Paleo essentials: meat, fish, vegetables, fruit, and two different types of soy milk (Simple Truth vanilla and chocolate) since you’re supposed to steer clear of dairy.

So by the time we got home I was craving ice cream OF COURSE, and so Taylor suggested a glass of chocolate soy milk. As you can imagine, I wasn’t too excited. Then I took a drink and you know what? It wasn’t half bad. In fact, it was pretty fantastic! Now I’m slightly obsessed with the chocolate soy milk – I had a glass at breakfast yesterday and this afternoon Taylor added it to our French Press for a nice mocha coffee treat.

So, to sum it all up, I was a hater on the soy milk until I tried it and now I’m telling everybody. Try it! It’s a healthy treat that tastes like you’re cheating. Not quite ice cream, but oh so close. xo